Thank you for the bravery in setting out what your life really is, using the "how it started vs how it's going" framework. It's such a pity that DH has lost himself like that, but hopefully, fingers crossed, he'll regain some of the joy as the stresses of getting ready to retire are finally in the past.

Hubby and I have a similar dynamic--he's the number cruncher, I'm the one out there with my head in the clouds making cookies and planting asters and counting bees. We balance each other.